I am feeling very empathetic to people with food addictions. I have often had difficulty relating to people with substance addictions because my challenges have been more what is called "process addictions" like romance addiction and codependency. Still, I understand "addiction is addiction" and it is all inspired from the same place of "emptiness and fear" which comes from not feeling loveable.
Recently, I have been noticing my compulsion to be on Facebook. At first I just blew it off because it is part of my writing, connection etc. It became very clear to me in the last week that I have been out of balance with my administration work, meditation and yoga practice. I noticed that even though I let these important areas of my life fall back, my Facebook presence has been strong, daily and well cared for.
So, without putting myself or anyone else down, I realize how seductive Facebook is to me. As someone who puts "the yoga of relationship" above almost anything else in my life, it is obvious how a 24/7 network of connection, sharing and availability of people can be a temptress. This morning on my way down to meditate, I saw my computer and heard "just check me real quick. It will make your morning meditation that much better". OMG, here I am on my computer and have not meditated. LOL
So why is this like food addiction. Food is available 24/7 for most people. It is beneficial in many ways. It can be very social. It can make us "high". If abused, it can cause problems, For me, giving up Facebook would be like giving up food. It is not an option. Just like giving up romance was not an option. I just focused all my romantic energies on Angelina. They are part of my human experience so like peeps with Food Addiction, I must first admit I have a Facebook addiction and start taking steps to find my balance and health in this arena. Like food, it will not require abstinence. Like food, I need to have healthy balanced Facebook diet.
I am confident that I can create balance in this area as I have done with every other addiction or compulsion I have identified. It actually excites me because I love a challenge.
Anyone else relating to this??
Monday, April 21, 2014
Saturday, April 12, 2014
It's Time To Love Your Human
OK, it's 2014 and many of us are experiencing The New Earth in a myriad of ways. I was told very clearly in 2012 that my part in supporting The New Earth is to go out and share with as many people as possible, how beautiful, innocent, divine, worthy, lovable, pure, and Godlike we all are at our cores.
Most of us have worked diligently to love our children, our parents, our Gods or Goddesses (or at least our lack of belief in them), and even our fellow human beings (with the exception of those that trigger us. LOL). Anyway, it appears to me that the new frontier is fully loving Our Human. Sure we've all heard "love your humanness" but I am talking about completely disidentifying yourself from your body, emotions and thoughts so you can actually love Your Human.
I began to dramatically love my human self in May of 2013 when I had finally received enough information through books, CDs, cassettes, lectures, sermons, workshops, retreats, advice, counseling, loving examples, self talk, depression, pain, suffering and ultimately meditation, to outweigh the old programming that I and others (mostly I) had brainwashed me into believing about my unlovability and "not enoughness". Miraculously, some space was formed between my True Eternal Self and My Human Self. I believe that it was this small space that made all the difference. I began to refer to my human self in the 3rd person as Armand where as before I thought I was Armand. I began to see Armand as a being that had been entrusted to me to watch over and care for. From this perspective, I became much more loving to him because I no longer blamed him for all the pain, shame, loss and stupidity that I had endured. He was doing the best he could and much of what I had judged him for in the past was a result of not having as strong an influence in his life as I do now.
I am finding myself more and more recognizing my True Divine Being, as well as the True Divine Being of others, with the simple awareness that our Human Self is just that, Our Human Self, and is like a trusting, innocent child that we are to guide, love, accept and care for. In the Real Love by Greg Baer material, it is said that "people just want to be seen and accepted right where they are and they will begin to feel loved." Well, isn't it time that we do that with Our Human Self? How can you see someone unless there is space between you and them?
Here's to loving Our Human Self as much as we have learned to love others. Maybe even more since that will make it so much easier to love everyone and everything Just As It Is!
Most of us have worked diligently to love our children, our parents, our Gods or Goddesses (or at least our lack of belief in them), and even our fellow human beings (with the exception of those that trigger us. LOL). Anyway, it appears to me that the new frontier is fully loving Our Human. Sure we've all heard "love your humanness" but I am talking about completely disidentifying yourself from your body, emotions and thoughts so you can actually love Your Human.
I began to dramatically love my human self in May of 2013 when I had finally received enough information through books, CDs, cassettes, lectures, sermons, workshops, retreats, advice, counseling, loving examples, self talk, depression, pain, suffering and ultimately meditation, to outweigh the old programming that I and others (mostly I) had brainwashed me into believing about my unlovability and "not enoughness". Miraculously, some space was formed between my True Eternal Self and My Human Self. I believe that it was this small space that made all the difference. I began to refer to my human self in the 3rd person as Armand where as before I thought I was Armand. I began to see Armand as a being that had been entrusted to me to watch over and care for. From this perspective, I became much more loving to him because I no longer blamed him for all the pain, shame, loss and stupidity that I had endured. He was doing the best he could and much of what I had judged him for in the past was a result of not having as strong an influence in his life as I do now.
I am finding myself more and more recognizing my True Divine Being, as well as the True Divine Being of others, with the simple awareness that our Human Self is just that, Our Human Self, and is like a trusting, innocent child that we are to guide, love, accept and care for. In the Real Love by Greg Baer material, it is said that "people just want to be seen and accepted right where they are and they will begin to feel loved." Well, isn't it time that we do that with Our Human Self? How can you see someone unless there is space between you and them?
Here's to loving Our Human Self as much as we have learned to love others. Maybe even more since that will make it so much easier to love everyone and everything Just As It Is!
Exposing The Cholesterol Myth
I was so blown away by a documentary film we saw today from 2009. It's called Fat Head. It shows a completely different perspective to Super Size Me. It is very much in alignment with the data I have discovered in the last few months about how much of what we have been told by the "experts" is contrary to what the actual studies show. I wept for a while for all of the people who have suffered from this misinformation. Here are a few highlights that I am buying into for now.
1. Saturated Fat is good for you and eating it lowers Cholesterol and helps one to lose weight and does not cause heart disease or obesity.
2. Vegetable Oil which replaced saturated fats causes inflammation and heart disease.
3. A high grain diet causes inflammation and heart disease and can lead to obesity.
4. Not getting enough cholesterol can lead to fatigue and depression.
When I was first diagnosed with Coronary Artery Disease (which I now affectionately call "The Window Maker" because it has opened a window into my health. thanks Deborah Mazanek), I could not find a dietary connection since I was doing pretty much what the experts have said to do since the 50's. Now that I have this new information, things make much more sense. I can definitely see how my diet contributed to my blocked artery. It also explains why my dad died of heart disease at 59 after substituting vegetable oils and whole grains for animal fats and eggs in the early 60's. I am so inspired.
1. Saturated Fat is good for you and eating it lowers Cholesterol and helps one to lose weight and does not cause heart disease or obesity.
2. Vegetable Oil which replaced saturated fats causes inflammation and heart disease.
3. A high grain diet causes inflammation and heart disease and can lead to obesity.
4. Not getting enough cholesterol can lead to fatigue and depression.
When I was first diagnosed with Coronary Artery Disease (which I now affectionately call "The Window Maker" because it has opened a window into my health. thanks Deborah Mazanek), I could not find a dietary connection since I was doing pretty much what the experts have said to do since the 50's. Now that I have this new information, things make much more sense. I can definitely see how my diet contributed to my blocked artery. It also explains why my dad died of heart disease at 59 after substituting vegetable oils and whole grains for animal fats and eggs in the early 60's. I am so inspired.
Saturday, April 5, 2014
God Bless The Talkers
Have you ever met anyone that talked and talked, often repeating themselves and it seemed as if they would keep going forever? Well, I have certainly known my share of them and can easily relate to them. Hell, I talk for a living. We often put them down saying things like..."they really must enjoy the sound of their own voice" or "do they really think they are that interesting?" or "they sure take up a large space in a room." Anyway, it occurred to me that extra compassion may be offered to these rambling rivers of talk. I have often gotten off the phone with someone and realized how drained I was and how after a while, I would lose my desire to stay present to them.
I realized recently that one probable cause for incessant talking is this....the voices in the psyche are so loud, so negative, so abusive and so demeaning that at least while they are talking, their own voice drowns out the "shitty committee". Can you imagine what it feels like to have such powerful voices telling you bullshit constantly. I would imagine that 99% of us can relate to these voices but we all use different tools to quiet them. I tend to use Facebook and movies even though meditation is much more effective. Others use nicotine, alcohol, sex, porn, gambling, TV, comfort food, and other distractions to keep the voices quiet. Unfortunately, the only long term effective cure is to become the observer. Yes, the voices will still be there chatting away 24/7 but at least two amazing things will happen.....1. you will create space between the voices and you and be better able to not believe what they tell you.... and 2. You will begin to have new empowering thoughts about who you really are and the voices will start to repeat those thoughts to you more and more. Remember, the voices are just regurgitating what you and others have told them. They are not bad, they are just not creative. They believe everything they have heard just like your computer always gives you what you program into it.
So, God Bless The Talkers. They are only doing whatever they can to keep "the hell inside of them" from occupying their precious conscious space.
I realized recently that one probable cause for incessant talking is this....the voices in the psyche are so loud, so negative, so abusive and so demeaning that at least while they are talking, their own voice drowns out the "shitty committee". Can you imagine what it feels like to have such powerful voices telling you bullshit constantly. I would imagine that 99% of us can relate to these voices but we all use different tools to quiet them. I tend to use Facebook and movies even though meditation is much more effective. Others use nicotine, alcohol, sex, porn, gambling, TV, comfort food, and other distractions to keep the voices quiet. Unfortunately, the only long term effective cure is to become the observer. Yes, the voices will still be there chatting away 24/7 but at least two amazing things will happen.....1. you will create space between the voices and you and be better able to not believe what they tell you.... and 2. You will begin to have new empowering thoughts about who you really are and the voices will start to repeat those thoughts to you more and more. Remember, the voices are just regurgitating what you and others have told them. They are not bad, they are just not creative. They believe everything they have heard just like your computer always gives you what you program into it.
So, God Bless The Talkers. They are only doing whatever they can to keep "the hell inside of them" from occupying their precious conscious space.
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